When Children Become Impossible, Should You Lose Your Rag?

Life with a 3-year-old is not exactly what you would call a walk in the park. In fact, it is nowhere near anything like the walk in the park. Don’t get me wrong, it is amazing to have a toddler; they are an absolute bundle of joy. However, sometimes these little, fragile daisies can turn into nerve wrecking monsters, and I mean like they can really piss the shit out of you. I cannot even begin to imagine the life of a mother who handles 2-3 children. I mean just imagine the rumpus she would have to deal with on the daily basis. I just get to take 3-year-old niece to her favorite playground so she can play with her favorite outdoor playground equipment once in a while and that makes my head spin. Anyway, as parents and caregivers to children, we have to do our best to make sure that children get to have the best possible learning that aids in their cognitive and physical development, but, what to do if the kids are making our job impossible? This blog discusses how moms and dads can stay calm when children make things hard.

Why Children React the Way They React?

The first and the foremost thing for every parent and child caregiver to understand is the children’s behavior in certain situations. There are certain things to which children react the worse, and their certain things that calm the monster in them. Now what are those two sets of things. To understand these two sets of things, you have to understand your child. Play on the commercial playground equipment or hang around in the backyard, whatever you can do to spend more time with kids. You have to learn more about your child and that is only possible when you spend enough time with him. I know what you are thinking; kids can create hell for some parents. To cheer you up about parenting in those tough times, here are some of the quotes on parenting that you must read:

God put us here to prepare this place for the next generation. That's our job. Raising children and helping the community, that's preparing for the next generation.
Dikembe Mutombo

I think that enduring, committed love between a married couple, along with raising children, is the most noble act anyone can aspire to. It is not written about very much.
Nicholas Sparks

Women are, in my view, natural peacemakers. As givers and nurturers of life, through their focus on human relationships and their engagement with the demanding work of raising children and protecting family life, they develop a deep sense of empathy that cuts through to underlying human realities.
Daisaku Ikeda

Perhaps the soundest advice for parents is: Lighten up. People have been raising children for approximately as long as there have been people.
George Will

Raising children is a creative endeavor, an art rather than a science.
Bruno Bettelheim

So should you lose yourself when children make it hard for you? Absolutely not. Be patient with them, there’s always a polite way to reinforce a certain behavior in children. Positive and negative reinforcement can go a long way in helping kids tame their behavior.